- March 16, 2015
- Posted by: STEP Consulting
- Category: Newsletter, Uncategorized
In the previous issue of the newsletter, I wrote of a movie that started with a quote from Mark Twain: “The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.”
A corollary to Twain’s statement is, “How did you become who you are?” Did we bumble along or was our choice-making more deliberate? When presented with the proverbial forks in the road we call our lives, did we choose – consciously or subconsciously – in such a way that we now look back and say, “Yep, I am where I should be. I have become what I wanted (even if I didn’t know what that was).”
Two things have happened recently to make me reflect on this question:
- I’m helping plan my 40th high school reunion. Reunions always cause the pause, to force one to reflect (if not on your own journey, on others’ journeys). One of my classmates asked me how I ended up in New Hampshire, which is about as far away from my home in Minnesota as one can get and still remain on the same continent. Wow. Good question. Long answer. Pause. Reflect.
- I was listening to Earth Wind & Fire belt out Fantasy a couple days ago and I thought of Bob Bakke, my college roommate who loved EW&F. I wondered what happened to Bob. A couple of searches and bam, I located Bob – now a minister but definitely MY Bob since I know of no other minister who flies jets and races cars. I connected via email with Bob who responded, “I figured you’d be in Sauk Centre, MN [my hometown] teaching third graders [my college major]. I want to hear your story.” Wow. Interesting story. Pause. Reflect. (And I, in turn am dying to know how my black-belt wielding, sports car driving, downhill ski nut – adrenaline junkie – roommate landed in the ministry.)
How often do we pause and reflect on our choices, the decisions we’ve made – or not made – and the path those decisions set us on? More importantly, how often do we pause to consider what choices we NEED to make in order to reach a point in the future where we can turn around, reflect on our journey and situation, and declare, “Yep, I’m right where I want to be, where I NEED to be. This is WHY I was born?”
My guess is that we don’t do this nearly enough. Pause now. Consider where you want to be in three years. What do you want to be? What are you contributing to the world? Put that in your Outlook calendar for three years from today.
Then, plan backwards. In every month from today to your goal-achievement day three years from now, make an appointment with yourself to pause and consider how you’re doing in relation to your goal. If you’re like me, you’ll need to put a few more appointments on your calendar with specific steps that you need to do this month, next month, and the month after so you can propel yourself to your goal.
Here’s a great 10:33 minute video on How to Design Your Destiny by Brendon Burchard, NY Times best-selling author: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RjEMRNGApBk
Read more valuable leadership and management-related articles in this month’s Unleash Your Leadership Potential newsletter…